April 12, 2008
Topsy Turvy
Posted by aroundnaround under Anxiety, Depression, Emotional, Family, Panic Disorder, Personal | Tags: Agoraphobia, Depression, Emotional, Family, Husband, Irrational, panic, sick, Work |It’s been a hellish couple of days…
Between my mood fluctuating all over the place and some physical stuff going on, I’m ready to find a hole to crawl into until someone taps me on the shoulder and says it’s all over.
Kid stuff - I’m still adapting to having a kid back in the house - a hormonal teenager at that. Sometimes I think the combination of the kid’s hormones and my chemical imbalance is just a disaster waiting to happen. We had a bit of an issue the other day and while I’m not going to go into the specific details of what happened, let’s just say that I observed a pattern of behavior by all three parties (me, husband, kid) and that I have decided that the only way things will work in our house is if I am the one who breaks this pattern of behavior. It does, after all, seem easier if I change what I do rather than trying to point out to two other people (husband and kid) about how what they are doing is contributing to a … well…. a situation destined for failure.
Hubby stuff - he finally talked with is doctor and is arranging to see the counselor to deal with some Post Traumatic Stress issues. Hallelujah. I’ve been suggesting he needs more help for a while, and at last, someone is listening. They’ve also adjusted his anti-depressants and other medications a little bit.
Me issues - well, I’ve been battling my Irritable bowel the last couple of days. I don’t know if it is completely diet related or if it is diet (yeah yeah.. I should not eat hotdogs) and stress related. Probably the combo. I could also be coming down with something as I have been feeling just a little green around the gills.
Tonight has been mentally exhausting. I was to go to a going away dinner for a colleague, but I ended up not going. I feel bad about that but… I just don’t think it was meant to be. Between the Irritable bowel… and a rather cruddy discussion I ended up having with hubby, I became far to upset to even consider going. And while I would have wanted to pursue the conversation further with hubby, *shrug* this too was not meant to be. He also seems to have some kind of bug and ended up hurling in the bathroom at the culmination of the first round of our conversation.
I got a whole lotta thoughts in my head and my emotions feel a little raw. I finally divulged to hubby that there are a lot of days where I look for the reasons to keep on going, and that most days I really couldn’t care. He, unfortunately and naturally, took that as what I think of him and I and our relationship. Really it isn’t… and while most times I have a pretty good handle on these thoughts and feelings, if the right string is pulled, that kind of stuff just tumbles out of my mouth. And… even more confusing to me, is it is how I feel a good part of the time, but I know this is the irrational part of my brain speaking - the part being affected by my mood disorder - the part whacking my thoughts in all directions. I know on a rational level that life is not like that, but there are THOSE times where that is EXACTLY how I feel. I dunno. I don’t want people to worry because it’s not as though I am looking for ways to end my life.. ‘cuz that’s not how I feel… I .. just .. right now… life feels kind of empty, and I feel a little bit worthless - not working, not being able to go out much… and a whole kazillion other things which are contributing to me feeling like a pile of poop.
And yes, this to I know shall pass… these feelings…. and I feel confused and angry because the logical part of me is overruling the emotional part … because I also feel there is no room for the emotional part in my life.
Anyways, this babbling idiot shall sign off.
Bye for now.
April 13, 2008 at 5:22 pm
I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with everything. I really sympathize with you on the irritable bowel thing. I have it too, and it sucks.
April 13, 2008 at 8:33 pm
How are you doing with the camera? Doing new things, which take some concentration and thought to plan out, can help. If you can’t get outside try arranging a few indoor shots like around the windowsill… a blogging friend of mine, Clare, just posted some shots from around her home:
clarelmartin.wordpress.com/2008/04/12/eyeing-home/
April 15, 2008 at 10:12 pm
My daughter suffers from irritable bowel. It’s not so bad now, since she removed most of the stress-inducing issues in her life. Irritable bowel is 95% stress related. Now since you have stress-inducing issues in your life which you can’t (at least in the short term) change, you need to take time each day to relax. Use whatever method works best for you.
My son-in-law is a recovered drug addict. He told me that no-one can help a drug addict. They have to get to their personal lowest point before there is the slightest chance of recovery. Perhaps you already know this.
Btw the activity which research has shown that has the best success rate for making people happy is helping others. I’m suggesting voluntary work here (there are ways to do this without leaving home, if you’d rather not do that). It should make you happier, give you increased self-esteem AND take your mind off your problems at home.
Whatever you choose to do/not to do, you have my best wishes. I can see that your life is way too complicated to be easy!
April 16, 2008 at 2:00 pm
The irritable bowel problem can be brutal. In my experience, it does seem to be realated to both diet and stress. I hope you’re feeling better today!
April 23, 2008 at 1:30 pm
Jon: Thanks for dropping by.
I’m feeling better…. irritable bowel is well… something I have had most of my life, so while I moan and groan about it now and then, I know that there will be a better day - usually right around the corner.
April 23, 2008 at 1:31 pm
watpo: Thank you so much for your most thoughtful reply. I do try to manage the stressors that cause my IBS to flare up. Big no-no’s are all the yummy foods out there. Yes, I am aware too that the drug addict needs to get to their lowest and make their own decision about recovery. I pray this does not come too late for my stepson.
I agree about the helping stuff and I will definitely have to see what I can do, even if it is from home. My employment involves helping people, so I know that is when I am at my happiest.
And yup… life is complicated… no way I can change that. I’m kinda taking the optimistic view that if it is complicated now, maybe in the future when it isn’t so complicated (crossing my fingers here,) I will enjoy it that much more.
April 23, 2008 at 1:32 pm
Gabriel: I went and checked out the friend’s site. Very cool. I continue to muck around with the camera a bit. The odd snapshot here and there. I want to do a journal … er… thingy jigger of what the dogs look at when we go for a walk… a “dog s eye view” sort of thing. Expect something like that soon. Once I do that, I will definitely be setting up a flickr account to host the pictures.
Now I gotta get working on that ‘meme’ . . .
A&A
April 23, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Hey BPD in OKC :
Thanks for dropping in and offering your support. Irritable bowel is a nasty little bugger for sure.
I’ll be taking the time to visit your blog soon.
A&A